There's something about clean slates that get to me everytime. Ergo, the new blog.

Will post the link when it's up and ready.:)

I'm sorry. If you read this, I'd like to make it official: You are humming inside my head. Humming. Do you understand?

What you will remember most from that evening are the branches from the tree that loomed above your pickup truck. There was wine although I could have imagined it. There was an elephant but everyone says elephant nowadays, as if it were something real to begin with. Let's try song or kiss. There was a song in the room. Let's talk about the kiss in this room. A line from a song I 'discovered' a couple of days ago clearly illustrates the feeling: In the back of your car I feel like I have travelled nowhere. Isn't time strange? Once, you believed all those things that you thought kept you standing on your feet and in another minute you are in the middle of government property where are no lamplights. After all, a good story doesn't have to start with two strangers meeting under the most extraordinary circumstances. It could be this; this could be the part of the story where all the endings get stripped away like an afterthought. There were words, many of them. Some I could remember, some I could understand well and cry at. And no one can ever say that we are or that we will ever be sorry for all the things that happened in between that last time in this same car and that moment. There were many good people to meet, many lessons to trip over, vows that we both refused to keep. The tree, you see, doesn't hold any secrets for anyone. It'd be a fine mistake to think that. And if someone loved me at that very minute and if I knew it, I wouldn't have laid my weary head on your chest. And we wouldn't have waited for morning to come before we kissed so that we could see each other, clearly, closely, for once.

Because I fell in love with Hornby's book, 31 songs, I've decided to resurrect my music blog: http://leopardskinhat.vox.com/

That's it, I guess, for this blog. Nyahaha.

My passion for language is one thing that I have always been vocal about. But sometimes, I feel so betrayed by it; that inspite of these words, I can never really tell you how I feel today, or how much I want to know about death, or why I think anger is necessary for one to keep on living.

It's funny how we develop associations for things we love so that no one can really catch on that we keep on talking about one and the same thing.

I am existing in a world that thrives on codes.

This morning, I plucked out a single white hairstrand from my head. Then I think, who first thought of the word forever? He must've been the most hopeful person that ever lived.

That ever lived.

And now that person is gone and no one knows about the fact that he was the one who was able to name the first real lie. This, I think is one of the world's greatest tragedies.

At this very minute, someone
has decided to die of loneliness. On his last day on
earth, he reads his favorite book and looks up at the sky
when he reaches the line that has haunted him
from the first. I won't tell you what it is because
the tree outside his front door has promised to keep
it a secret for him. At noon, he walks two whole
blocks just to find out what is happening in the world. The
newspaper man tells him what he already knows, Nothing
is new. Nothing is happening. His cat sleeps on
his cold kitchen floor and for the first time, he wonders
if it dreams of him. What color am I in animals' dreams? A
useless query but still, someone somewhere would
pay for that kind of information.
Then he sits on a stool and waits for a god. Aloud, he says, I'd like
to know you better now before I change my mind. But a minute passes
and the truth gently blows on his forehead. He believes
it is time for a kiss. He calls up someone
he barely knows and asks for it. She says she'd like to oblige
but she's too busy making tinola for a family dinner that night.
He, of course, tells her about this recurring dream he has about fishes.
The yellow fish, the one with the smallest fins,
says that it knows the code of a kiss. Why do they know this, he
asks the woman. She tells
him, I'm busy and shuts off the world.
How do they know this, he repeats to an empty room and it's the
afternoon light, this time, that reminds him of the hour, how
it would be better used if he breathed in a little less of faith.

So far, I've only had my heart broken three times. The first time was when my mother died; the second time was when I first discovered that a person whom I loved deeply loved someone else; and the third was today. You'd think that having survived the loss of both my parents and bankruptcy and finally having severed existing ties with blood relatives would make me more adept at losing. You'd think that the sting would gradually change into something more forgiving, less harsh. But today I was reminded that when you lose, it always brings with it a new hurt, so different from all the ones that came before that you'd make yourself believe that it's the first time something so integral has been snatched from you. But after going through the motions of a day that never really ends, you sit and stare out the window and say So that really happened. Jesus Christ.

Which brings to mind one of my favorite childhood memories. My father, who was a crybaby himself, never allowed us to give in to indulgent bouts of tears. He read somewhere that real sadness lasts for approximately 21 minutes. So he literally trained us to cry for a full 21 minutes and after the minutes were up, he'd pat us gently on our backs and would say That's that for now.

So imagine the concentration that I exerted in staring at our office clock for 21 minutes. And all I wanted was to keep from crying. And I did.

It has been roughly 9 hours and so-so minutes since I heard the news. Forgive me, but I still feel so out of sorts. Nobody died, not really. I just feel, I dunno. Disconnected, somewhat. Honestly, what devastates me most is the realization that I do have a very deep need to be appreciated and accepted. This need is something that I've almost always denied in the past. I mean, how many times have I crowed about my independence, my solitary interests, my private faiths? You must know this about me. Then comes this ruinous affair and I just don't know what's what, really.

But inspite of the disappointment and frustration, I am not kneeling. I will keep on, still and always, simply because I have to. Because I am in love with silence's more interesting twin, with the stops and starts between definitions, with the mystery and salvation in the words that exist to defy all these blank spaces.

I am the invention of the people who have loved me.

I've been caught up in a deleting frenzy since Friday. For once, in the three years that I've been working, I cleaned out my office mailbox. I deleted unnecessary mail in all my email accounts. I've even deleted some entries here that made me go Ick when I read them earlier.

Out with the old indeed.

Truth be told, I should spend less time online and more time reading the books I bought. I think I still have 23 unread ones. Yes, I keep track. The book I am currently reading has made me weep with relief twice already. It's not one of mine; my friend Cyril lent it to me. Its title is History of Love by Nicole Krauss. A certain passage I have come across made me stop reading it for a full hour because it felt so painfully accurate and made me say, That's the way it was. Exactly. It's extremely validating to be reminded that I am not the first and the only one who has experienced these necessary losses.

Oh and I've been writing again. Not blog posting, but writing. I started just this morning and have already filled up around 6 pages of my company notebook. Am looking forward to buying a new Moleskin soon.

Also, I guess I need more time to write the way I used to. Need is the operative word. I need to be less focused on what other people might think and concentrate more on what I think. I need to truly write for myself, without pretention but with more pride. I need to be more honest and open. I need to remember why I started writing in the first place. I need to find that strength that has been so evident in me when I was younger, less structured. I need to see things clearly and not be afraid of the things I would see. I need to be needed less.

I need to relearn my life.

Beside the Point
Stephen Cushman

The sky has never won a prize.
The clouds have no careers.
The rainbow doesn't say my work,
thank goodness.

The rock in the creek's not so productive.
The mud on the bank's not too pragmatic.
There's nothing useful in the noise
the wind makes in the leaves.

Buck up now, my fellow superfluity,
and let's both be of that worthless ilk,
self-indulgent as shooting stars,
self-absorbed as sunsets.

Who cares if we're inconsequential?
At least we can revel,
two good-for-nothings,
in our irrelevance; at least come and make
no difference with me.

1. It's nice to be quiet like this. When I wake up, I feel a fine buzzing inside my head. I walk three blocks each morning and three more going home. I pass by many things I'd like to have. The urgency to write like a madwoman has gone from me. Maybe one of these days the bubble will burst and the very thing I know is true will reveal itself. But that's for another, more terrible day. Tonight, it's raining and I am planning on sleeping early.

2. Passing by one of the big hotels in Alabang, I saw two people kissing. I inched closer for a better look but tried to hide myself in the shadows because I am not entirely shameless. They were two women -- the other had short curly hair and the taller one had a small earring on her nose. How nice it is, I think, to experience this kind of abandon, a feeling that I can still remember but am finding hard to mimic now that I've grown older.

3. What I would like is to hear from you. But again, you have dropped off from the earth. Where are the places you vanish to? I would like to know, truly.

4. I miss my mother's chicken soup. Even if she has never made chicken soup, even if she is not really my mother but a sigh and sometimes, just a name that I keep putting in between these self-imposed distances.

5. What does it take for a person to be truly happy in the body s/he walks around in? Is it really no longer a question of happiness but of comfort, a certain acceptance? It makes me lonely, somehow, thinking that.

6. If I am a blur, you are radar. Whatever that means to us now.

7. Last Sunday was perfect. I never thought I could describe any experience in a theme park as perfect but there we were and it was not raining and my brother kept posing next to these obscure, uninteresting structures, saying Take my picture as if his life depended on it and he and Darling's cousin rode the bump cars and I recorded how fast their cars went That ride took about 2.6 minutes Oh and we rode the ferris wheel and Darling's cousin was trembling with fright because it was his first time and you know how it is, that very certain fear, when you do things for the first time ever and we ate a Family-sized pizza because it was a Family Day and what could be better then eating a Family-sized pizza on your Family Day and we watched the fireworks while eating and the colors exploded all over our faces God-cum says P who never knows when to stop being crass and Darling he loved me so much that night I knew it as much as I know the curve of your back because you've walked away from me so many times and we rode every ride we possibly could and laughed at Darling's cousin's nervousness Oh we were radiant We were a flying trapeze, a six-foot heart undone and un-miserable I could not believe that my life looked like this If you took a picture, you'd be afraid of how terrible we seemed and on our way out we saw Cinderella and her prince and I was fine with the way Prince Charming looked at me as if he was about to say something dreadfully, painfully important but he couldn't, what with all that prettiness draped on his one good arm so he walked past me, so quickly that I could've imagined it all, oh well, there goes that. Story of my life.

The Muse This Time

R. Zamora Linmark

I am, at the moment, a patron of the meat market. Profession: a poet on-call because poetry only comes when it wants to; hobbies; listening to Gershwin while looking for Freud in Woody Allen movies; history of the heart: six lovers who wanted to be immortalized.

“Funny,” said my fourth, “you can cook up a poem about bumper-to-bumper traffic, but when it’s time to write about me…” How do you explain to someone who makes you come thrice a week and gives you head and foot massage at bedtime why it is much easier to write about gridlock in the land of diesel than return to that humid night in Makati, where we had met, in a Korean-owned steam room, a misnomer since lust provided the heat.

The fifth and sixth were more demanding. “Screw the acknowledgment page,” said the fifth. “I want a biography that sings,” said the sixth. Completely unaware they were making the same request an hour apart from each other, I told them, “What do you take me for? a mail-order poet? Dial-a-poem?”

“I don’t get it,” said the third. “You can create beauty from a dead fish,” said the second.

“Destroy buildings in one line,” said the first, “but you cannot write about the good ole devil?”

Their words are stinging now as I approach twilight. Truth is: love’s hard to live with. I forget to set the alarm clock, I buy everything on credit, I start making up words, I call in sick to the world. “Are you a poet?” asked the second. “A lover?” asked the third. “Just shut up and write,” said the first.

I can’t. Nothing is entering. Except the voice of my first lover, the one who set the picture straight. “The problem with you is you think you’re Woody Allen in Manhattan.”

Gershwin’s blue clarinet, black-and-white Big Apple, an ice cream parlor. At the counter, Woody is buying Hemingway’s daughter, Mariel, a milkshake before he delivers the bad news. Tears coursing down her cheeks, she asks, “Why? Because I’m too young? Because I don’t know Rita Hayworth from Veronica Lake? Because I’m not Diane Keaton running with you in the rain?”

They split, then a minute before the credits roll, he changes his mind. “I’ll take you back,” Mariel says, “when I return from London.”

That’s the closest to my idea of love: watching the skyline, making out, making mistakes, making believe desire means it’s with somebody else, then breaking up, and, if we’re lucky, forgiveness that comes right before take-off. There, I’ve said it. What more can one want? A lover who loves me as much as the rain. Rain, and, from the opening credits to the closing heart, Gershwin.

There are two things that have made this day bearable. Learning about this and hearing this, both quite unexpectedly:

This is the last song that I've managed to sing to someone without quitting halfway. Would it make you feel good, I wonder, if I told you that?

Isa pa:

Cameo Appearance
Charles Simic

I had a small, nonspeaking part
In a bloody epic. I was one of the
Bombed and fleeing humanity.
In the distance our great leader
Crowed like a rooster from a balcony,
Or was it a great actor
Impersonating our great leader?

That’s me there, I said to the kiddies.
I’m squeezed between the man
With two bandaged hands raised
And the old woman with her mouth open
As if she were showing us a tooth

That hurts badly. The hundred times
I rewound the tape, not once
Could they catch sight of me
In that huge gray crowd,
That was like any other gray crowd.

Trot off to bed, I said finally.
I know I was there. One take
Is all they had time for.
We ran, and the planes grazed our hair,
And then they were no more
As we stood dazed in the burning city,
But, of course, they didn’t film that.

Since I can never really tell you, can never express joy fully in words, I'll just let one of my more favored poets do the talking:


So Much Happiness
Naomi Shihab Nye

It is difficult to know what to do with so much happiness.
With sadness there is something to rub against,
a wound to tend with lotion and cloth.
When the world falls in around you, you have pieces to pick up,
something to hold in your hands,
like ticket stubs or change.

But happiness floats.
It doesn’t need you to hold it down.
It doesn’t need anything.
Happiness lands on the roof of the next house, singing,
and disappears when it wants to.
You are happy either way.
Even the fact that you once lived in a peaceful tree house
and now live over a quarry of noise and dust
cannot make you unhappy.
Everything has a life of its own,
it too could wake up filled with possibilities
of coffee cake and ripe peaches,
and love even the floor which needs to be swept,
the soiled linens and scratched records…

Since there is no place large enough
to contain so much happiness,
you shrug, you raise your hands, and it flows out of you
into everything you touch. You are not responsible.
You take no credit, as the night sky takes no credit
for the moon, but continues to hold it, and share it,
and in that way, be known.

1. I've always sort of envied quiet women. I don't really know why. Today I had the pleasure of talking to one. She kept her hands folded on her lap and her voice had a soft, lilting sound to it. It was hard to stop staring at her face. Once, she said, I never feel lonely. Strangely, I believed her.

2. These days, I find it easier translating poems into puns. There is a smug sneer on my face that I can't seem to wipe off and for the life of me, I can't even remember why it's there.

3. It's terribly ironic how much I want to get out of a job that helps people get jobs.

4. You know what else is strange? You storing away certain moments to remember when you get to be alone and when you already are, you'd find that you've forgotten them.

5. I do not want constant messages. I do not want to have to go out every Friday to talk and bitch about men and jobs and panty hose. I do not want to check out new bookstores with you because there are never any. Really.

Sometimes, I think I'm not built for the consistency of friendships.

6. I miss V, though. I miss the way he used to indulge me. He always said, "Sunshine, you've never been easy to love."

Some days are like this. We talk softly, pretending that someone else is in the room and is straining to hear what we're saying. We pretend that we are important enough to be heard and in truth, we are, but I suspect, only to each other. It is nice, being able to reach up and cup your face even when there's nothing special going on. Routine soothes me,makes me believe that I am a part of that part of you that closes and gives itself to the earth. Faces this small should be illegal, should be ridiculous but yours is not. I tell you,as I have many times, that it is my favorite face, the one I'd need to search for in a crowd.

I wake up to this face every day and I find something new in it from time to time. I try to kiss all these gentle discoveries.

Romantics find it easy to live in the world. They think that when you love, you'd develop a sort of super-sense. I don't have it, and neither do you. What I have is this need for you, gloriously named. And that is all.

The sun squeezes itself into our small and loving world. You say, "Let's see if they fit now." pertaining to a joke about how our hands seem awkward together. Not quite right, as if the sky has decided to fall into the sea. Imagine what that must look like, something so large and looming, landing smack dab in the middle of a riddle no one can quite understand. Our hands are incomparably incompatible together. It amazes me sometimes, how we've grown to love this fact.

you're going to reap just what you sow

Which Trainspotting Character Are You?

My life revolves majorly around two entirely different but overtly material things: books and ice cream. I don't know why, exactly. That's just the way things are.

Like right now, I'm in a mall and I'm walking, right? Well, not now now because right now, I'm typing. But I'd like to use the present tense because YOU might find it more interesting and in a writer's life, YOU matter the most.

Have you noticed how much we look alike? We could be blood sisters; we could be identical granny apples.

Anyway, as I was saying, you might find it more believable if I narrated this story as if it's happening now. It has come to my attention that I used to always start my stories with the phrase I remember, or That day, or some such nonsense, which is evidence, really of how I like reviving circumstances that are sooooo yesterday.I want to do things differently today so kindly cooperate and pretend that what I'm talking about is all happening to me right this very minute and I'm not sitting in front of a PC I'm renting by the hour, typing so fast my head hurts.

Pretend that I am there. I am walking inside a mall and glancing at clothes mounted distastefully on the shop windows. My brother is bound to arrive at about 8pm so I have lots of time to kill. From this distance, I can see For Sale signs inside one of the more pricey bookstores. There are stacks of books by the entrance and I look at the selections for a while. Everything seems so uninteresting but I'm thinking, if I had $3,232,084,242, I'd buy them all. I'd even buy a David Sedaris. Is he any good? It seems that his books are always on sale. How would you feel, if you saw a published book of yours on the sales rack? Like 10 copies of your goddarned unsold books huddled together and they all look so fucking alike it's annoying. Would you, honestly, buy your own books?

So anyway, I was looking listlessly at the titles and my eyes, oh joy! my wondering, ever-curious eyes were persuaded by some unnamable force to look a little to the left and I see... I see... ICE CREAM! So I go up to the vendor and select the flavor of the day, which is apple crumble, and I happily eat it while looking at the books on sale.

And then I spot a familiar face. The person is looking at a stack of books and is wearing a pretty black bowler hat. I'm hopeless with names, really, but I have a good recollection of faces. She is supposed to be someone who attended the same church that my brother and I did back home.

She moves away from the stack of books she was inspecting and walks away from the bookstore. I decide to follow her because I haven't made up my mind whether I was going to talk with her or not. She goes to five different stores and I still could not decide on whether I wanted to come up to her and say hi.

Her hair swings. That's right. When she walks, it sways from side to side, like women's hair do in shampoo commercials. Her left elbow, strangely, is higher than her right and she walks with a slight limp. She turns her head and I notice that she has a small mole on the corner of her mouth.

Reading Peter Pan for the first time drove me nuts. Seeing that mole makes me remember that time in my life when I envied Wendy for having that mole so when I moved on to Kindergarten, I drew a mole on the corner of my mouth using my father's black felt pen.

She stops in front of a shoe store and looks at the shoes displayed on the store window. That's when I decided to just walk up to her like a normal person would. She had this polite look on her face when she turned to me.

That look was so familiar that for a split second, I thought she was me.

Truth is, I think the years have changed us, made us look eerily alike. That was my face, I thought. I was in college and I was in a boy's car. I was screaming Pulis Patola! at the top of my lungs and I never knew when to stop, when to say That's it, I'm getting off now. I never do.

And this woman looks at me as if she's seen me for the first time in her life. I am dismissed within a span of 4 seconds, before she even fully turns away. She opens her mouth and says,

I'm sorry, I'm not Grace.

Oh, I say, my mouth forming the shape of the dot at a bottom of every question mark.

Oh.

We can store around 232778 words in our heads. Of course, I'm guessing. It's a guesstimate. Now isn't that smart? That's one more word so I can say that I have 232779 words in this noggin of mine. Isn't it funny, though, how in important situations, all we can say is

Oh.

I wonder sometimes about what I would say if I die on the spot because of heart failure or a car accident or a shark bite. Would I get to talk to someone I love, like characters do in movies? Or would I be able to say

Oh

and move on? Like the way I did after I saw that woman. I moved away and headed over to the ice cream stand. My brother isn't here yet and I think the flavor Strawberry Rush sounds promising.